Sure, Halloween is over, but the scariest time has JUST begun. November 1-January 1 has proven to be the absolute scariest time for our families. The holiday season is officially here!
Each year, we promised to be done shopping by now, have the kids' toys purged, family photos planned and dinner menus crafted. YET, small things like Youth Soccer League and Kindergarten have taken up more time than anticipated:
So, in an effort to get things in order - we will plan to attack all holiday efforts by 12/1.
(Overzealous, yes! Practical, maybe):
While it's a scary time, the amazing memories, days of gratitude and lessons we are teaching remind us that we wouldn't be the wives, moms, sisters, daughters without the frantic times of 11/1 to 1/1.
How do you manage when your calendar takes a hit?
What a six months! I like to recap our journey as Leave it to Mama grows in the setting that all Mamas can relate - pregnancy (see previous Post 13 weeks). We just made 25 weeks and it’s pretty amazing. LeavitittoMama.com has finished fetal development and we are heading to the final trimester. We are working on several new projects and cannot wait to share with our Mama community!
Since beginning our journey, we’ve celebrated our birthdays along with the husbands’ and all 5 kids; in addition to, my sister’s wedding, our grandfather’s 86th birthday and both Mother’s & Father’s day. I’ve started several home renovations including a home gym, office and toddler room. Painting rooms and repurposing furniture were my summer thrills. Concurrently, my sister had her dream wedding, completed summer school and is heading back to school today along with her four year old. Time sure does fly when you are a MOM.
In the midst of my DIY renegade, I’ve spent time with my precious daughter. Her communication skills are growing by leaps and bounds. The best times are those when we have a debate:
Me: Put the toys away.
2: No Mom. I’m playing.
2: Thank you for listening, Mom.
I’ve noticed when I pause before speaking, she assumes I’ve been convinced of her ways. How peculiar. Yes, I’m a first time Mama. I find tons of things peculiar, which keeps me on my toes. I use the term ‘on my toes’ in hindsight. In the heat of the battle I’m offended and I find it annoying.
My little girl’s favorite phrases are:
The most disturbing being the hashtag statement. I’m certain I’ve said the other phrases- but speaking in hashtags is not a part of my dialogue. Especially, when I know she is recording very syllable!
Each family gathering has turned into another place for the smallest children to battle for their THEIR toys, games or clothing. It’s a struggle. Before we get out of the car, I have to reiterate the rules - no hitting, no pushing and no biting. Last Saturday, they started slapping one another so we added no slapping to the rule book. They love each other so much but once they feel violated there’s no turning back. Luckily, we’ve figured out their patterns and can identify when they need time apart.
Life as a Mama, wife, auntie, sister and friend definitely has its ups and downs. I struggle to ensure all parties are safe, nurtured and secure; which brought me to the idea that seeking balance may not be the best idea. In the circus, you have a tightrope walker, trapeze artist and juggler. I am most like the juggler – I prefer to have more than one thing to manage. The more unique the item, the easier it is for me to determine a rhythm. I also get a moment to hold each. Balancing on a rope leaves my mind to wander and flying through the air wouldn’t allow my mind to wander enough. SMH.
I’ve noticed other Mamas taking the trapeze and tight rope route. One requires soaring from task to task in an effortless fashion – having faith in the execution and starting over, if necessary. The others (tight ropers) are skilled, in that, they are very in tune with every movement and are unaffected by their surroundings – unless distracted.
The love for our children is what brought us together. We are different acts in the same circus (Motherhood). Joining forces maintains sanity in my world where juggling a knife, washer machine, toddler, iron and computer is the standard.
If you were to describe your Mama-isms as a circus act – which would it be?
(Allow me to reintroduce myself :) Here's our first blog from February 2014. Happy Friday!)
Yes, I can be corny but what’s a day without a corny phrase to keep things moving. It’s Mia, ready to give you little background on how this idea came about. My sister and I are a whooping ten years apart-one day I’ll start lying about this decade but for now…I STILL look good.
While I am THE FIRST, she has a more traditional view on certain topics. Needless to say, I jokingly call her my 45 year old sister. I tend to be more liberal but our common thread is the importance of raising intelligent, polite, brave, God-fearing individuals.
Coincidentally, my transition from WM to SAHM caused our views to overlap. The former conveniences of scheduling a house cleaning, cooking one meal a day (maybe) and using "I'm too busy" as an excuse, vanished. Since she worked as a SAHM and just entered the workforce, we were able to relate on the phenomenon we call MAMAhood.
Present day, I balance my SAHM duties with wife. I believe that I am purposefully living in these roles until my CAREER is finalized. In the meantime, I will laugh, pray and love my way into pure JOY.
Mia the First
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