I have the pleasure of raising with a strong willed, highly intelligent, toddler. Not yet two, she can recognize 85% of the alphabet, counts 1-10 and knows 10 colors.
In order for me to contain her tantrums and defiant moments. I had to remove myself as Mama and pretend to be a paid nanny. Here are my methods for dealing with tantrums:
1. Remember the child's age.
2. Recognize the triggers that ignite tantrums.
3. Anticipate length of tantrum.
4. Remain calm.
The most important being #5. Once I realized that my frustration level determined the severity of her actions, I was able to put myself into a mode of peace. I refuse to fuel the fire.
Do you have any suggestions for dealing with tantrums? What is your formula for success?